“You’re Not Good Enough” & Other Lies
(Four months ago, on my 45th birthday, we published a post called 45 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self. That post has since become our most popular ever, with over 65,000 views. What follows is the first chapter of a book based on the post– part memoir, part self-help, part philosophical guide to happiness– which I hope to share with my daughter someday. We appreciate all constructive feedback!)
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“The creative artist and poet and saint must fight the actual (as opposed to ideal) gods of our society– the god of conformism as well as the gods of apathy, material success, and exploitative power. These are the ‘idols’ of our society that are worshipped by multitudes of people.” – Rollo May
In the beginning, we are each born whole, full of the magic and spark of creativity; full of awe and wonder; full of life and light.
To watch a young child explore the parameters of their existence, experimenting with the boundaries and discovering the outer limits of their imagination, is to witness the birth of self– a wholly original work of art upon the blank canvas of our souls.
But, all too often, in our attempts to nurture children and help them find the right path, we unwittingly imply that the path they might find and choose for themselves isn’t good enough. And, while it may not be our heart’s intent, the message that’s ultimately conveyed is, “You’re not good enough.”